"Women are ready to settle down when they meet the right guy; men meet the right girl when they're ready to settle down."
I want badly to blog about this adage, but who wants to ask a girlfriend heartbreaking or heartbroken from devotion unreciprocated to go on record about this? Who wants to ask a guyfriend whether they mind a blog post about how he dumped a girl after several years and then got engaged to the next girlfriend in mere months (which might hurt both his ex and his beloved)? NOT ME.
The few times I've gathered the backbone to even utter this to a girlfriend were for the purpose of shortening already extreme and protracted suffering from a guy that would never commit, but would never have the balls to break up until he was ready to move on and find his wife. It's agonizing to tell a teary friend that she's amazing, but that her awesomosity might not ever matter to her love.
Perhaps I am a beneficiary of this phenomenon. I wrote in an older post that my Beloved and I "are different on all the little things, but agree on all the big things." Would I need the diamond index in the sidebar, if we'd met before he was at a point in his life to consider the big things? He called just now, and I asked him. Of course, he says he doesn't know that he would have started thinking about the long term with a different person. Basically, I couldn't even wretch a solid supporting/detracting anecdote from my own boyfriend.
I need help writing this post! Please comment about yours or "your friend's" experiences. We need details (not the flat archetypes I've been citing) to explore whether this truism is actually true at all.